Giving a meaningful, moving eulogy can be a nerve-wracking situation for even the most accomplished public speaker, but it need not be. How can you summarize somebody’s life in a few short minutes, while being both somber and funny at the same time? Writing and delivering a eulogy is a therapeutic tool to help deal with your grief, and being chosen to give a eulogy is an honor and should be treated that way. Here are some tips for writing and delivering an eloquent and memorable eulogy.
- Gather information. Talk with family members, close friends and co-workers to get important information on the deceased. Some important information to include in the eulogy is the persons family and other close relationships, their education/career, hobbies or special interests, places the person lived or traveled too, and any special accomplishments they had.
- Organize your thoughts. Jot down your ideas by whatever means are most comfortable and familiar to you. Create an outline of your speech, and fill in the information that you gathered about the person.
- Write it down. This is not a toast at a wedding where you can make off the cuff remarks, and you should not ad lib a eulogy. Writing it all down allows you to include and remember every detail you wanted in your eulogy. When you bring a copy your eulogy to the podium make sure it is easy to read, print it out in a large font, or if it hand-written leave a few spaces between the lines. Keep in mind your time constraints, it’s best to keep things on the short side, especially if there are other speakers.
- Review and Revise. Your first draft will not be the last. When you think you are done, sleep on it and look it over in the morning when it is fresh again, that will be the time to make any necessary revisions.
- Practice, Practice, Practice. Read over your eulogy several times in order to become familiar with it. Practice in front of a mirror, read it over to some friends or family and have them give you feedback. Become familiar with your speech so you can recite it without making it look like you’re reading from a script. The more you practice the more comfortable you will be.
- Make them laugh, but be respectful. A funeral is not a roast, however there is room for humor in your eulogy. Fondly remember a story about the person that everyone can relate too. Keep it appropriate, there will be children and the elderly there that may not share the same sense of humor. Laughter is truly the best medicine, and some well placed humor will help people cope, and will bring back fond memories of the deceased.
- Don’t be afraid to show emotion. Funerals are an extremely emotional event, nobody expects you not to shed a few tears. However, if you feel that you will be too strongly overcome by your emotions, have a back-up plan in place where someone you trust can deliver the eulogy for you. Give them a copy well in advance if you feel this could be an issue.
- Have a glass of water as well as tissues handy.
Writing an obituary is a difficult and emotional task. First, you will need to gather information from family and friends of the deceased about their childhood, education, career and hobbies and interests. As well, speak to the funeral home to receive any important information on the date, time and location of any funeral service, or other funeral related events. Using the template will help make the process easier and will ensure you write a properly structured obituary.
Instructions: Replace all items in ITALICS below with the appropriate information.
[GIVEN NAME] [NICKNAME] [SURNAME NAME], [AGE], of [CITY], [STATE], passed away on [DATE OF DEATH] in [LOCATION OF DEATH]. [NAME] was born in [LOCATION OF BIRTH] to [PARENT’S NAMES] on [DATE OF BIRTH]. He/she went to high school at [SCHOOL NAME] and graduated in [YEAR]. He/she went on to earn a degree/certificate in [DEGREE TYPE] from [SCHOOL NAME]. He/she worked as a [JOB TYPE] for [COMPANY] for [NUMBER OF YEARS]. He/she enjoyed [ACTIVITIES/HOBBIES]. He/she received [AWARDS/HONORS] and was involved in [CHARITIES/ORGANIZATIONS].
[NAME] was predeceased by (List predeceased: spouse, parents, children and siblings.) He/she is survived by his/her [RELATION], [NAME] of [CITY]. (List all survivors: spouse children, siblings, parents, grandchildren, nieces and nephews).
Relatives and friends are invited to gather on [DATE] from [VISITATION/GATHERING TIME] at [LOCATION AND ADDRESS]. A funeral service will be held on [DATE] at [TIME] at [LOCATION AND ADDRESS]. Burial will follow at [CEMETERY NAME], [CEMETERY LOCATION]. In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to [ORGANIZATION NAME], [MAILING ADDRESS].
John Lee “Johnny” Smith, age 80, of New Egypt, NJ, passed away on January 1, 2017 at home with his loving family by his side. Johnny was born in Chicago, Illinois to the late James Robert Smith and Mary Beth Smith (nee Doe) on September 10, 1936. He went to high school in Auburn Heights, IL and graduated in 1954. He went on to earn a degree in Education from the University of Illinois. He later worked as a tutor for ABC Learning for 35 years. He enjoyed reading, gardening and spending time with his family. He received many awards for his teaching and was involved in various school organizations.
Johnny was predeceased by his parents and his brother Jack Robert Smith. He is survived by his loving wife of 65 years, Diane Lynn Smith (nee Johnson) of New Egypt, NJ; his one daughter Jessica Brown of Chicago, IL; two grandchildren and many nieces and nephews.
Relatives and friends are invited to gather on Tuesday, January 10, 2017 from 2PM to 4PM at the Tilghman Funeral Home, located at 52 Main St., New Egypt NJ. A funeral service will be held on Wednesday, January 11, 2017 at 10AM at the funeral home. Burial will follow at the Brig. General William C. Doyle Veterans Memorial Cemetery in Wrightstown, NJ. In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to ABC Learning: 123 Main St., New Egypt NJ 08533.
Remember most newspapers charge by the word, this template is good for getting the all the information necessary in as few words possible. However, this template is not written in stone. You can make any adjustments you feel necessary.